Do you want to make your husband happy and satisfied? Give him an overwhelming orgasm with a penis massage – also called lingam massage. You don’t just fiddle with your hands. With this extensive lingam massage, you really pamper him. Read our tips on how you do such a lingam massage!
1. Make sure he is relaxed:
You can leave a pillow on his back and also keep a pillow under his head to make him more comfortable. If necessary, put a towel under him. Provide a warm and pleasant atmosphere in the room. You can do this by, for example, lighting (scented) candles and putting on calm, soft music. Apps such as Spotify offer a wide selection of massage music. Ask him to take a deep breath from his stomach. Let him spread his legs so that his penis and balls are completely exposed and then take a seat between his legs.
2. Use lubricant:
Put a generous amount of lubricant on your hands and heat it between your hands. Make sure you use enough lubricant. Do not use massage oil for this, because you will massage the penis later. Normal massage oil can be irritating to the genitals and to avoid having to interrupt the massage to wash your hands before continuing, it is better to use lubricant immediately. There are lubricants in handy pumps available for lubricant massage. Preferably use silicone-based lubricant as it will evaporate less quickly
3. Do not immediately start with his penis:
Although men can generally be excited more quickly than women, men also need a lingam massage preparation for what is to come. Look deep into his eyes and then first massage his neck and shoulders. You can make stroking or kneading movements. Then spread his chest and massage his chest muscles. Before you go to his penis, you can do his legs first. Massage his shins and thighs firmly. When you arrive at his crotch, you extensively massage his groin. Because the groin is sensitive, stroking movements with your hands is sufficient.
4. Let the lingam massage begin:
You can now continue with his pubic area. Make sure you use enough lubricant for this. Continue to massage the groins occasionally all the time. Do not immediately go to his penile shaft, but first massage his balls. You can take them in the palm of your hand, caress them with your fingers and pull them lightly.
Note: not every man likes this. You can occasionally ask him if he likes it. Also, note his gaze that can tell you how he likes it. You can also caress his perineum. This is the place between his ball bag and anus (this place is also present in women). For example, you can caress his perineum with your thumbs while massaging his groin and pubic area with your other fingers.
5. Off to the penile shaft:
You have now arrived at his penile shaft. Keep in mind that this massage is different from just subtracting. You work the entire massage very slowly.
There are different massage techniques that you can use:
The kneader: grasp your shaft with both hands and pinch. Squeeze gently and a little harder, ask him what he likes.
The acorn greeting: you use one finger for this technique. Grasp the penile shaft with your other hand. Use the finger of your other hand to make small circular movements over his glans. Don’t forget this trick. This is the small strap between his foreskin and glans.
The wringer: grasp his shaft with both hands over its entire length (as far as possible) and make a wringing movement in which your hands each turn in a different direction.
The milking technique: use both hands for this technique. Start at the base and cover his penis with your hands. Let your hands slide up one by one – beyond his glans – and start again at the base.
The corkscrew: hold one hand at the bottom and enclose his penis shaft with the other. Move your hand up with a circular motion. Make an extra turning motion with his glans only. As if you are opening a bottle cap.
The skier: you use both of your thumbs for this. Start at the bottom of his ball bag and let your thumb slide up one by one up to the glans. Repeat these movements as if you were “skiing” your thumbs over his shaft.
Occasionally ask if he likes what you do, but do not flood him with too many questions so that he stays relaxed and can enjoy. Also, from time to time, do not forget to massage his pubic area, groin and perhaps the thighs.
6. Optional: massage the sacred spot:
Some men like it when their prostate is stimulated. The prostate is a small organ that can trigger intense feelings of pleasure when you stimulate it. The prostate is about 5 centimeters deep on its abdominal side. When you insert one or two fingers into his anus, you will feel a thickening: this is the prostate.
You can massage this spot with one or two fingers, after which there is a good chance that he will come violently. Is your husband not used to prostate stimulation or even anus stimulation? Then massaging the prostate maybe a little too much for him. Briefly conclude this in advance whether he wants it or not. If he doesn’t want it, leave it alone with a penile massage. If he wants it you need to use enough lubricant to make the massage comfortable for him.
7. End the lingam massage:
You can continue until he cums, but it is not necessary as an orgasm is not the goal. At the end of the massage, you can lift your hands from his crotch up to his chest and heart to distribute the sexual energy throughout his body. You can now choose to rest or do other sexual acts. For example, he can give you a yoni massage.
